First Time Sex
First time sex can be amazing! It can be scary, pleasurable and it can sometimes be painful. There’s a whole range of emotions that can be part of first time sex. Everything will be new, but that’s part of the excitement, exploring a new part of life.
First time sex generally means the first time a person has an intimate sexual activity with another person. Penetrative sex isn’t the only type of sex out there, first time sex covers all intimate sexual experiences. Some examples include, oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, kissing, hand sex (fingering) and mutual masturbation.
Everyone will have different thoughts about who they want to have first time sex with, but who you have first time sex with must be your decision. Nobody can force you into having sex before you are ready.
If you have decided that you want to have sex with someone, they too must decide if they want to have sex with you. If they do, then you can both consent to having sex together. This can be confusing and nerve racking, but it can also be very exciting. However you come to your decision, the most important thing is that you both consent.
Intimacy is a feeling of closeness and presence between people. This feeling can happen for many different reasons, and it can be an exciting and emotionally powerful part of your sexual life. Intimacy can be as simple as cooking dinner together and watching a movie, but it can also be a result of having sex with someone.
When we have sex we can often feel like we have gained some intimate knowledge or intimate feeling with that person. Sex is about different things for different people, but it can be about trusting someone, and allowing yourself to become close to them. During sex we get close physically, and this can sometimes mean that we feel emotionally close to this person also. This can be great and an amazing feeling –to share a sexual experience with someone and feel so close to them. It’s a part of what can make sex so wonderful.
However, sex doesn’t have to be about intimacy though. So long as it’s consensual, sex can be whatever you want it to be, it can just be great fun and it doesn’t have to be emotional, but you should always respect other peoples’ emotions.
Masturbation is a normal, natural and healthy part of life. Masturbating is when someone gives themselves sexual pleasure – generally using their hands, fingers or an object to play with and stimulate their genitals. Masturbation doesn’t have to result in an orgasm or ejaculation, although it is often the result.
Anyone can masturbate, regardless of age, gender or sexual orientation. Often masturbation is discovered during childhood or adolescence, but don’t stress, there’s no rush to do it and it’s perfectly ok not to masturbate too. Your body, your choice.
You may have heard of some slang words – wank, solo sex, self-pleasure, fingering, flicking the bean or tossing off.
Sex positivity means different things to different people and has come into use more and more in the recent years. It is a term for a whole cultural movement. Quite simply this movement is about embracing sex and our diverse sexualities as a positive force in our lives.
Sex positive means celebrating these diverse sexualities, understanding that we are all different, rather than belonging to a few small categories. It’s about no longer seeing sex as something to be afraid of and to make taboo, but rather an important part of our lives.
Sex positivity generally promotes safe, consensual sex and taking care of your sexual health. If we can be have a positive outlook on sex, we can promote these things for a healthier life, we can understand and enjoy our pleasure more, and allow that to help us lead more positive lives overall.
Same Sex Attraction
Same-sex attraction includes erotic thoughts, feelings and behaviors towards someone of the same sex. It is completely normal and natural to have these feelings. Know that just because you are attracted to someone of the same sex it doesn’t necessarily mean you are gay, a lesbian or bisexual. Sexuality is never black and white. Exploring your sexuality is a natural part of life and it’s important to be patient and make sure you feel safe and comfortable with the choices you make.
If you are feeling confused about how you feel, it may be helpful to chat to someone about how you are feeling. Find more information on your local youth service or local family planning clinic here.